How to Attain Happiness (21 Common Sense Steps)

This is How to Attain Happiness…

Have you wondered, how to attain happiness?  The pursuit of happiness is timeless.  Read on to find 21 common sense steps on how to attain happiness.

Have you been in situations where you ask yourself, how do I overcome difficulties with people without fighting?  How do I win without fighting?  Solutions to these situations are outlined below and therein lies the keys to happiness itself.

Brought to you by concerned citizens, Chris and Kelly Watkins.  We bring you an article written by L. Ron Hubbard called, “Is it Possible to be Happy.”  It is found in his book, A New Slant on Life.

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Furthermore, provided to you are 21 common sense precepts, which are simple guidelines you can incorporate into your life to attain happiness.



by L. Ron Hubbard

Is it possible to be happy?
A great many people wonder whether half of us even exist in this modern, rushing
world. Very often an individual can have a million dollars, he can have everything his heart
apparently desires, and is still unhappy. We take the case of somebody who has worked all his
life; he has worked hard and he has raised a big family. He has looked forward to that time in
his life when he, at last, can retire and be happy and be cheerful, and have lots of time to do all
the things he has wanted to do; and then we see him after he has retired—and is he happy? No.
He’s sitting there thinking about the good old days when he was working hard.
Our main problem in life is happiness, but I’ll tell you more in a moment. The world
may or may not be designed to be a happy one. It may not be possible for you to be happy in
this world, and yet nearly all of us have a goal to be happy and cheerful about existence.
You know, very often we look at the world around us and say that nobody could be
happy in this place. We look at the dirty dishes in the sink, and the car needing a coat of paint,
and at the fact that we need a new gas heater, we need a new coat, we need new shoes or we
would just like to have better shoes; and so, how could anyone possibly be happy when
actually he can’t have everything he wants. He is unable to do all the things he’d like to do, and
therefore, this environment doesn’t permit a person to be as happy as he could be. Well, I’ll tell
you a funny thing—a lot of philosophers have said this many, many times—but the truth of the
matter is that all the happiness you ever find lies in you.

You remember when you were maybe five years old, and you went out in the morning
and you looked at the day, and it was a very, very beautiful day, and you looked at the flowers,
and they were very beautiful flowers; twenty-five years later you get up in the morning, you
take a look at the flowers—they are wilted. The day isn’t a happy day. Well, what has
changed? You know they are the same flowers, it’s the same world, something must have
changed. Probably it was you.

Actually a little child derives all of his “how” of life from the grace he puts upon life.
He waves a magic hand and brings all manner of interesting things into being out in the society.
Here is this big, strong brute of a man riding his iron steed, up and down, and boy, he’d like to
be a cop. Yes sir! He would sure like to be a cop; and twenty-five years later he looks at that
cop riding up and down and checks his speedometer and says, “Doggone these cops! “
Well, what is changed here? Has the cop changed? No. Just the attitude toward him.
One’s attitude toward life makes every possible difference in one’s living. You know you don’t
have to study a thousand ancient books to discover that fact. But sometimes it needs to be
pointed out again that fife doesn’t change so much as you.

Once upon a time, perhaps, you were thinking of being married and having a nice
home, and having a nice family; everything would be just fine. The husband would come home
and you would put the dinner on the table and everybody would be happy about the whole
thing; and then you got married and maybe it didn’t quite work out. Somehow or other, he
comes home late and he has had an argument with the boss, and he doesn’t feel well. He
doesn’t want to go to the movies, and he doesn’t see how you have any work to do anyhow—
after all, you sit home all day and do nothing—and you know he doesn’t do any work either.
He disappears out of the house.

He’s gone. Then he comes back later in the evening, and quite an argument could ensue
over this. Actually, both of you work quite hard. Well, what do we do with a condition like
this? Do we just break up the marriage? Or touch a match to the whole house? Or throw the
kids in the garbage can? Or go home to mother? Or what do we do?

Well, there are many, many things we could do, and the least of them is to take a look
at the environment. You know, just look around and say, “Where am I? What am I doing
here?” And then, once you have found out where you are, why, try to find out how you can
make that a little more habitable. The day when you stop building your own environment,
when you stop building your own surroundings, when you stop waving a magic hand and
gracing everything around you with magic and beauty, things cease to be magical, things cease
to be beautiful.

Other people seek happiness in various ways. They seek it hectically, as though it’s
some sort of mechanism that exists—maybe it’s a little machine, maybe it’s parked in the
cupboard, maybe happiness is down at the next corner, or maybe it’s someplace else. They’re
looking for something, but the odd part of it is, the only time they ever find something is when
they put it there first. Now, this doesn’t sound very plausible, but it’s quite true. Those people
who have become unhappy about life are unhappy about life solely and completely because life
has ceased to be made by them. Here we have the single difference in a human being. We have
here a human being who is unhappy, miserable, and isn’t getting along in life, who is sick,
who doesn’t see brightness. Life is handling, running, changing, making him.
And here you have somebody who is happy, who is cheerful, who is strong, who finds
that most things are pleasurable; and what do we discover in this person? We find out that he is
making life, and there is actually a single difference: are you making life or is life making you ?
Carefully go into this, and you will find out that a person has stopped making life
because he himself has decided that life cannot be made. Some failure, some small failure,
maybe not graduating with the same class, or maybe that failure that had to do with not
marrying quite the first man or woman that came along who seemed desirable, or maybe the
failure of having lost a car, or just some minor thing in life started this attitude. A person
looked around one day and said, “Well, I’ve lost,” and after that, life makes him; he doesn’t
make life any more.

Now this would be a very critical situation if nothing could be done about it, but the fact
of the matter is that it is the easiest problem of all the problems man faces—changing himself
and changing the attitudes of those around him. It is very, very easy to change somebody else’s
attitude. Yet you are totally dependent upon other people’s attitudes—somebody’s attitude
toward you may make or break your life. Did it ever occur to you that your home holds
together because of the attitude the other person has toward you? So there are really two
problems here—you would have to change two attitudes. One: your attitude toward somebody
else, and two: their attitude toward you. Well, are there ways to do this? Yes, fortunately, there

For many, many centuries, Man has desired to know how to change the mind and
condition of himself and his fellows. Actually, Man had a cumulative inclination to do this up
to relatively few years ago. But, we are making it a very fast paced world; we are making it a
world where magic is liable to occur at any time, and has.
Man now understands a great many things about the universe he lives in, which he
never understood before. Amongst the things he now understands is the human mind. The
human mind is not an unsolved problem. Nineteenth century psychology didn’t solve the
problem, but that doesn’t mean it has not been solved.

In modern times the most interesting miracles are taking place all across this country
and across other continents of earth. What do these miracles consist of? They consist of people
becoming well when they were ill, incurably ill. They consist of people who were unhappy
becoming happy once more. They consist of abolishing the danger inherent in many of the
illnesses and many of the conditions of Man. Yet the answer has been with Man all the time;
Man has been able to reach out and find this answer, so perhaps Man himself had to change.
Perhaps he had to come up to modern times to find out that the physical universe was not
composed of demons and ghosts. To outlive his superstitions, to outlive the ignorance of his

forbears. Perhaps he had to do everything, including inventing the atom bomb, before he could
finally find himself.

Well, he has pretty well mastered the physical universe now. The physical universe is
to him no longer a problem, he can do many things with it; and having conquered that, he can
now conquer himself. The truth of the matter is he has conquered himself. The science of
Scientology came about because of a man’s increased knowledge of energy. Man became
possessed of more information about energy than he had had before in all of his history; and
amongst that, he came into possession of information about the energy which is his own mind.
The body is an energy mechanism. Naturally, a person who cannot handle energy could not
handle a body. He would be tired, he would be upset, he would be unhappy, and he looks all
around him to find nothing but energy. If he knew a great deal about energy, particularly the
energy of himself and the space which surrounds him, he, of course, would know himself; and
that, in the final essence, has been his goal for many thousands of years. To know himself.
Scientology has made it possible for him to do so.





Watch, Is it Possible to be Happy?


The Way to Happiness program, presented by Chris and Kelly Watkins:


  1. Take Care of Yourself
  2. Be Temperate
  3. Don’t Be Promiscuous
  4. Love and Help Children
  5. Honor and Help Your Parents
  6. Set A Good Example
  7. Seek To Live With The Truth
  8. Do Not Murder
  9. Don’t Do Anything Illegal
  10. Support A Government Designed and Run For All The People
  11. Do Not Harm A Person Of Good Will
  12. Safeguard And Improve Your Environment
  13. Do Not Steal
  14. Be Worthy of Trust
  15. Fulfill Your Obligations
  16. Be Industrious
  17. Be Competent
  18. Respect The Religious Beliefs of Others
  19. Try Not To Do Things To Others That You Would Not Like Them to Do To You
  20. Try To Treat Others As You Would Want Them To Treat You
  21. Flourish And Prosper

How to Win without Fighting!?!

Can you really win without fighting?  Yes!  And Flourish and Prosper is how you do it.   What does that entail?  You do better than the one you want to beat.  You walk away from the argument and ignore all the noise.  Concentrate on building yourself, your brand, product, business or whatever you got up, out do the other guy.   Put all your energy and power into enhancing and growing.  Channel your efforts in a constructive way, if you are mad take it out on plotting, planning and executing being bigger and better than the bad guy!!!  This, last step Flourish and Prosper, in the end is one of the main ways in how to attain happiness.





Author Bio

Kelly Watkins, (in the video directly above in yellow shirt) who writes these blogs and Chris Watkins her husband, HELP PEOPLE
In all ways possible I do my best to move people up to a more high level.  A key point is, I offer free guidance and education to influence and inspire others to greater levels and heights.  Chris and Kelly Watkins want you to be super successfulWe are based in Los Angeles, California.





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